How to revive a relationship through an effective apology! And why sorry isn’t enough! An effective apology is one that is complete. Here is a checklist of things that go a long way to having your apology an effective one. Does your partner feel you have acknowledged them enough for what they experienced because of […]
From Conflict To Repair To Revival To Connection
What I do know is that conflict is an essential part of the nature of relationship. Relationship is dynamic. Tension creates the impetus for change and indicates where adjustment is needed. When a couple are in conflict it feels chaotic and complicated because there is a lot going on. Escalating conflict is often because of […]
How To Build and Maintain Healthy Relationships
Why do we enter Relationship at all? The reasons are multifaceted.And the needs for an individual’s life fulfilment are varied and complex. The importance of this consideration is large.Why? One might spend valuable time and effort with someone you are totallymismatched with. Getting clear on needs and value priorities, will help us decidewhether the relationship […]
In Search of Yourself
Tools for individuals seeking change and fulfilment Your Greatest Ally is within you! “I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side, be an advocate for myself.” – Maya Angelou, author and activist. These words reinforce my observations of the more content and fulfilled people I […]
Rebuilding Love: Recognising the Demon Dialogues
This is the first of a series of articles on the key tools used in couples therapy. They are the approach I use, based on an emotion-focused lens of relationship repairing. Sue Johnson, in her book “Hold Me Tight”, outlines seven vital conversations to be had when we are attempting to build and/or rebuild relationship. […]
Essential Daily Practises (EDPs)
What & Why? These are the things we do regularly that keep us vital… physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually. Moving the body. Breathing deeply. Eating to nourish yourself. Building healthy loving connections with family, friends and communities. Connecting in nature. Self reflection and self study. These are some of the foundations on which […]